When They Call Doll Owners Losers and Incels - That will change in ten years

As a doll owner, have you ever been called a loser or an incel? You ever mention to a friend that you own a doll and suddenly the whole vibe changes? You get that weird look like you just confessed to eating your own toenails. Or worse, someone accuses you of necrophilia like you’re doing something sick or twisted. But let’s be real here. These same guys doing the judging? Lock them in a hotel room with a high-end silicone doll that looks like their dream girl, and no one ever finds out... come on, they’re going to do it. Maybe not all of them, but enough that their outrage starts to look real performative.

The word "loser" hits different when you're a man.

It doesn’t matter if it’s said to your face or behind your back. Just hearing it used about another guy makes you wonder, is that what they think of me? It sticks. It festers. And the worst part is that it’s vague. It’s like being hit with every insult in the book at once without anyone being specific. You don’t even need to hear someone say it to you directly. Sometimes just overhearing people talking about some other dude getting called a loser can make you paranoid.

Let’s not kid ourselves, this word doesn’t really get thrown at women the same way. Maybe they’ll be called high-maintenance or crazy or emotionally immature, but loser? Not really. That label is saved for men, and it gets slapped on for everything. Lost your job? Loser. Live at home to regroup? Loser. Haven’t had sex in a while? Total loser. The bar is always moving, and if you’re not performing, you’re done.

Now fast forward to today, and let’s talk about a group of men who get hit with that label more than most: doll owners.

Say the word and people immediately throw out incel, loser, weirdo, all that. People hear "doll owner" and react like it’s 1996 and you just said you met your girlfriend on the internet. Remember when online dating was considered pathetic? Now every couple under 40 met on an app and nobody blinks.

That’s exactly what’s going to happen with dolls. Right now, it’s fringe. It’s weird. But in less than 10 years, it’s going to shift. Just like how internet dating went from taboo to totally normal, doll companionship will have its cultural moment too. The realism is improving, the tech is advancing, and eventually, the shame will wear off. One day soon, owning a high-end companion doll will be like having a luxury car. Guys will show them off, compare features, and talk about custom upgrades the same way they do about cars or gaming PCs.

Most of the men I’ve met in this space are not losers. Some are lonely, yeah. They’re dealing with life on hard mode. Some are recovering from divorce. Some just can’t connect with women the way the modern dating scene demands. Some are tired of the rejections, the flakiness, the constant performance. So they opt for something they can control, something that gives them a sense of peace. That doesn’t make them losers. That makes them human.

You want to call someone a loser? Fine. But don’t point at a guy with a doll just because he’s doing something you don’t understand. Save that label for the guy who blames everyone else for his problems, never grows, never reflects, never gets better. That guy stays stuck. He earns it.

The rest of us? We’re just living differently. And the rest of the world’s gonna catch up.